Generations of Israelis grew up on Masada's myth of heroism and noble suicide. What really happened on the mountain does not quite fit the national narrative, yet the it keeps shaping Israeli society

Tamir Nimrodi's father learned of his death after 740 days. When Idan Shtivi was declared dead, his mother accepted it – but not his father. Yagev Buchshtav's parents were informed twice that their son had been killed. Shlomo Mansour's sister carries a heavy burden, and another battle awaits the father of Itay Chen. On this Memorial Day, the families of these war dead also have a grave to visit